In this post we will be looking at effects of single parent in child up bringing and Helpful Ways to Ease Single Parenting Stress.
INTRODUCTION
Single parenting is not a piece of cake. Raising a baby on your own, taking care of all their needs, and taking care of yourself, all at the same time, can be a stressful job. But if you plan it all out effectively, you will be able to carry everything out with ease. You might face a few challenges during the single parenting period, but they can also be overcome. Read on to know simple and easy ways that can make your single parenting experience fun for you and your child as well. Single parenting or single parenthood is a parent bringing up a child or children alone without a partner. The reasons for this can vary. They may have been in a relationship which they left, or their partner might have passed away, or been summoned to an active job. Some women choose to be single parents via surrogacy. When you go back to 500 years, the parenting approach was completely different. There is a phrase that says “it takes a village to raise a child,” which is quite accurate. Then, the child used to be nurtured by parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and close families. With time and modernization, the ‘village’ shrank, and it still continues to disappear. Human beings have evolved so that the community raises them, but when it is not present, then the dysfunction will potentially develop.
EFFECTS OF SINGLE PARENT IN CHILD UP BRINGING
Positive Effects of Single Parenting: Most times, the negative effects of single-parent households are quite apparent; economic troubles and abandonment-related trust issues. But there are also positive effects on raising a child.
- Strong Mother-Child Bonding
- Strong Sense of Community
- Share Responsibilities
- Maturity
- Parental Role Modelling
Negative Effects of Single Parenting: You cannot be the best mom out there, and there may be adverse effects as well. However, your style of parenting, attitude, perseverance, and support system should all go a long way minimizing negative effects like:
- Financial Troubles
- Low Parenting Quality
- Children After a Divorce
- Emotional Problems
- Loneliness
- Adjustment Difficulties
Helpful Ways to Ease Single Parenting Stress.
Raising kids, without the support of your better half, is not an easy thing to do as you have to single-handedly face a fair share of concerns, dilemmas, and other issues. However, don’t lose heart over any issues! You can cope with the stress with a great amount of planning and with these simple tips.
Set Up a Routine: Structure your day in such a way that it offers a sense of security to your child. Maintain a relatively consistent mealtime, wake up time and bedtime.
Taking Care of Yourself: Your child may observe you being angry, upset or sad when major life issues crop up. It is quite common in all families, be it a single parent or nuclear families. The only thing you should do is to let her know your negative emotions are not because of her, and you love her more than anything else.
Offer Unconditional Love to Your Children: Even after separating from your partner, your kids will still look for the same love and concern they used to get before. They need the same protection, routine, encouragement to learn and support from a loving and trusting parent.
Set Ground Rules: You will not have anyone else to back you up, so establishing certain ground rules will help to raise your children without much effort.
Try Handling Finances: Taking care of the family on a single income or being dependent on the former spouse is the toughest aspects of single parenting. It is important for you to understand about long term investments, budget your money accordingly, plan for retirement and if possible, you should try to earn more by doing an additional job.
Support Groups: It is evident that single parents need help to take care of kids when they are on run to do errands or someone to talk when they are disturbed. You can ask your extended family and friends to help. You may also join a support group, or hire a babysitter to take care of your little one.
Give Honest Replies: It is quite obvious that your child may question you about the other parent or the changes in the family. Try answering her in an honest and open way. Also, offer her the required support and help she required to deal with those emotions.
Remove Guilt: You may feel guilty for the things you cannot provide or the time you may spend with your kids. For your good, try to focus on all the things to accomplish for the day and also show the love, comfort and attention to your little ones.
Remain Positive: You may quickly become overwhelmed by the demands and responsibilities of single parenting. You may also suffer the pain of death or divorce of your spouse. Despite all these, you have to stay positive as your kids may easily get affected by your moods.
Set Up Role Models: Children will benefit when you give them examples of some real personalities. Look within your family or friends of any sex to be role models for your kids. Also, set a gathering where the responsible adult spends some quality time with your little one.