In this article, we discussed the types of commitment phobia, ways to cope, factors, we started by defining the meaning of commitment phobia
Definition
Commitment phobia is a comprehensive fear or avoidance of commitments. It can also be referred to as a fear of commitment, which is more specifically the illogical fear of long-term relationships or marriage
People with commitment issues may:
Have difficulty talking about the future
Lack the desire to take the next steps in a relationship
Question the relationship
Avoid making plans or commitments
Feel unwilling to take on responsibility for the other person
Types of Commitment Phoebes
The Unconscious Commitment Phobia
The insentient Commitment Phobia is the most common…and the most deceptive. He is also the hardest to recognize. This guy truly believes that he wants marriage, commitment and everlasting love. He has no idea that he is his own worst enemy, damaging anything good that comes his way. He categorizes himself as picky and unwilling to settle.
The Conscious Commitment Phobia
The conscious Commitment Phobia typically knows he is putting on an act in the beginning. He truly enjoys the woman he is pursuing, but has no intention of staying with her until the bitter end. He would much rather play his odds and bet on the one who opens her legs first. This guy knows he is not fit to commit and would rather remain single and have his pick of the litter for the rest of his life. The conscious Commitment Phobia can sometimes be honest about his fears, making him respectable.
The Married Phobia
The Married Phobia loves a challenge and he lives for the adventure of the chase. This particular guy is the one who cheats on his wife, perhaps joins a singles website, watches mass amounts of pornography, ignores her pleas for communication, shuts her out and generally has a hard time looking her in the eye. The Married Phobia feels that there must be an issue with his attraction toward his wife because he can’t quite seem to figure out why he wants to sleep with the entire Sports Illustrated summer spread.
The Long Distance Phobia
The Commitment Phobia is pretty good at long distance relationships. The most problematic of them enjoy having two lives: one with you and the other with someone else who may be reading this. Never quite trusting his own inherent instincts and feelings, the Long Distance Phobia has difficulty with decision-making. Therefore, he would rather have two lives in case one doesn’t work out or he gets bored. The woman who is far away is usually the secondary character in this guy’s love life.
The Dating Site Phobia
After months of coercion from your friends to “get out there,” you reluctantly sign up on the hippest new dating site, create a profile page and upload your cutest photo, all the while gripping a bottle of merlot. Swipe left, swipe right…it actually seems fun at first!
After a hot minute, an attractive man hits you up and comments on your eyes, hair or the fact that you have a cute little dog names Josh. Willing to look past his outrageously obstinate profile and the long drive, you holler back with a quick quip. You get along famously and things go from texting to sexting to questioning to disappearing.
The multi-Phobia
The multi-Phobia is like the Don Juan of Commitment Phoebes having a posse of women from which to choose. He is usually the one who never becomes “Facebook official.” He will simply lie about why he keeps his status a secret saying, “it’s silly” or “I don’t want to hurt my ex’s feelings.” When a woman discovers that she has been involved with this type, she usually convinces herself that what they had was real and the others were simply secondary characters in their relationship.
The Instant Phobia
This guy is the one who is already mentally packing his bags right as he approaches you during last call. If we are aware, we can look back and see tiny snap shots of a faster than lightening affair off in the distance. This type of Commitment Phobia is like a bowl of sunshine. He is the one-night-stand from the bar, the guy you talked to the entire night at your best friend’s wedding or the charming man you made out with in the bathroom at the club on Saturday night. Okay, so some of this was your fault.
Some ways to cope with commitment phobia include:
Talking to a therapist
Identifying and challenging negative thoughts
Learning to manage stress and anxiety
Practicing gradual exposure
Communicating your feelings
Being honest with yourself
Practicing self-care
Being patient with yourself
Some factors that can contribute to commitment phobia include:
Cultural trends and technology
Childhood experiences, such as having overly intrusive or unresponsive parents
Conclusion
Commitment phobia, also known as gamophobia, is an intense fear of commitment that can manifest in a variety of ways, including: Fear of romantic relationships, Fear of deep friendships, and Reluctance to